Dating + Mental Health
I have been dating my person for 3 years now and almost every argument we’ve ever gotten into was because he is such an extrovert and I am an introvert. I’m excited to share this article I found about extroverts dating introverts and visa versa.
Extroverts bring many wonderful qualities to their relationships. They are known for being assertive, sociable, and enthusiastic,. They often bring positivity to any room they enter. There are different levels of extroversion and every human is different. Not all extroverts love to be the center of attention, for instance, though many do. Some extroverts tend to be adventurous, while others are more reserved. Your extroverted partner may or may not be the life of every party, but chances are they’ll want to stay until the very end.
Unlike introverts, extroverts thrive on other peoples’ energy and often feel replenished after spending time with others. They don’t need much solitude and may even prefer to spend their down time hanging with their partner as opposed to being alone.
Communication is a critical factor in any relationship, but especially in introvert-extrovert relationships. If you’re an introvert, you’ll want to set boundaries with your partner and express your needs clearly so your partner can learn to accommodate them.
You may not be willing to attend a large, crowded concert, for example, or you may prefer to stay at a hotel when visiting family so you can have your own space to decompress.
Not every situation can be prepared for, so make sure you’re continuously communicating with your partner. You may have planned to meet up with your partner’s friends on Saturday morning, for example, but upon waking you decide you don’t have the energy for it. In this scenario, you might choose to stay home or go with the intention of only staying for an hour.
You may not want to do everything that your partner does, but remember their needs are different than yours. Give them the space to recharge. This could result in a daily walk around the neighborhood with a friend, a weekly breakfast with coworkers, or meeting up with family members on weekday evenings.
As an introvert, it may seem strange, but social interaction is just as important for extroverts as solitude is for you. When talking to your partner, make sure you address any concerns you have. Make sure you’re open and honest with your partner about your feelings and don’t be afraid to ask them questions to better understand their preferences.
When both an introvert and extrovert are considerate of each other, the differences in their social needs may be a non-issue, but if an introvert is dating a self-absorbed or inconsiderate extrovert, the introvert’s need for downtime may be ignored.
In any relationship, it’s important to pay attention to your own needs. Self-care is different for everyone and while compromising is often a healthy aspect of a relationship, it shouldn’t result in changing yourself or your needs to suit your partner.