Grief Awareness Day


What is grief?

Grief is a normal and natural response to loss and it can  affect  many parts of our lives. Sometimes it can make the simplest task feel  really hard to do.

Grief is an individual experience, it’s what happens after you lose someone or something important to you. You don’t have to know the person for their loss to impact you. Everyone experiences grief differently. Our culture, gender, age, past experiences of loss, and belief systems can also affect the way we grieve, so try not to compare yourself to anyone else or get too worried about the way you grieve – everyone grieves differently. These are some things you might notice:

  1. Change in feelings
  2. Change in thoughts
  3. Change in your actions

What can I do to help with my grief?

Grief, and everything that can come with it, can be really intense. If you’ve experienced loss there are things you can do.

Looking after our mental health and well being helps us cope better during the tough times. Things like:

  • staying active
  • locking in good sleeping habits
  • eating well and drinking enough water
  • cutting back on alcohol and other drugs

A lot of the time you might not feel like it, but getting out of the house can be one of the best ways to help things improve. Remember what you used to do for fun and see if there’s a way to give yourself permission to try it again. It’s OK to feel happy.

Find something that works for you like, playing or listening to music, walking, hanging out with friends, watching movies, playing sports or reading.

If you have experienced loss of a loved one, it can be helpful to remember the good times or the impact they had on you. It’s good to do this with family and friends. If you’re feeling up to it, it can be really valuable to find a way to celebrate their life and say goodbye.

You could:

  • write a letter
  • share stories with your mob, family or friends
  • create an artwork
  • contribute to the funeral
  • make a mix-tape or a memorial of some sort.

Some people also find it helpful to plan a memorial with close family or friends on the anniversary of an important day – like a birthday – that may remind them of their loved one.

Being kind to yourself is a good idea at all times, but even more so when you’re having a tough time. Accept that grief hurts, it’s hard and it takes time. Feeling confused, overwhelmed, angry (or anything else) and having a good cry is OK. Some people find it helpful to set aside 15 minutes or so every day to do this and nothing else.