Let’s Talk Dating: Should I Accept Money From The Woman My Husband Had An Affair With?

Chattanooga-based Dating Expert Brock Olsen joins Gino D every Tuesday Afternoon at 5:30pm for Let’s Talk Dating.

Hits 96 Listeners email their dating and relationship scenarios and questions to gino@wdodradio.com and Brock gives his expert advice on the air.

Below is this week’s question and make sure to listen to Brock’s answer below…

Hey Brock,

I’ve got something I’d like to ask you. I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends and family about it and quite frankly, I’d be OK if they never knew. So please please keep me anonymous. Anyway, my husband and I got married a little over a month ago. It was a great ceremony, we were surrounded by our amazing friends and family, and received some great gifts.

Well, one of the most surprising gifts was from a woman, I’ll call her “Maggie”. Maggie is about 15 years older than we are and wasn’t at the wedding. You see, very early on in our relationship, when we were dating, we hit a rough patch and my husband cheated on me with this woman. We spent many many months and many many hours in counseling to get past this and move on.

Obviously things recovered and we have been solid for years now. I haven’t even thought about this woman for a long time but I just found out that she has sent my husband $5000 as a wedding gift. I don’t know what to feel about this and I have so many questions. I tried talking about it with him and he reassured me that he hasn’t spoken to her or kept in contact with her at all and he was just as surprised as I was to receive this. At first I was confused as to why after all these years she would contact him, and then just to give him such a large amount of money seems very confusing to me. I told him all this and he said he was as confused as I was.

I really don’t think he’s lying to me and don’t get me wrong, we’re both in our 30s, and we could really use the money. However, I feel uneasy accepting this money from a woman who almost broke us up years ago. Am I being too stubborn about not wanting to accept it because of who it’s from? My husband thinks we should keep the money, but to me it’s “dirty”.

What would you do and how would you handle this? Like I said, the only people who know about this affair are me, him, and of course “Maggie”. I don’t want to drag anyone else into this and that is why, I’m coming to you and your followers.

Thank you so much for any help!

– Anonymous

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